I don’t know if other moms are like me, but I don’t think in numerical years but rather in school years. I have never been one to make “New Year’s resolutions,” however at the beginning of each school year I find myself in a state of reflection.
In today’s society it is so easy to get wrapped up in trying to be the “Pinterest mom” or the perfect “Instagram mom.”
My husband and I have talked so much lately about our parenting skills and what we are passing on to our children, especially since our oldest is beginning her last year of high school. In a few years it won’t really matter if I had the perfectly decorated Pinterest home or how many crafts we did. It won’t matter how perfect their birthday cakes were or whether or not I weighed in on Immunizations or other political issues. What will matter is if we raised faithful, God fearing adults.
It is so easy to get focused on the political issues surrounding us today. We should be concerned about the state of our nation, but we can fix many of those issues starting in the home. If my children step into society as faithful, God fearing adults that possess great character traits then they can be leaders among society.
One of my favorite verses in the Bible is Psalms 144:12: “That our sons may be plants grown up in their youth; that our daughters may be as corner stones, polished after the similitude of a palace.” When I read these words, I ask myself: “Is my son flourishing as a well-watered plant?”, “Am I raising my daughters to be cornerstones?”, “Are my children polished and fit for a palace?” What great word pictures God uses in this verse. As Christians we should be training our children to rise above the normal. They should be polished, strong leaders not only in our churches but in their communities.
People should see the that they are different. They are children of the King of kings.
There is nothing more beautiful than a well-watered, leafy green plant. The Bible says our sons should be just that. We should be watering them, cultivating them, and pruning them while they are young; so that when they leave our home they are strong, capable, and flourishing.
Our girls, likewise, should be strong and capable. The Bible says that they should be as cornerstones. The cornerstone is the first stone set in any structure. It determines the position of the entire structure. As ladies it is our roll in the home to set the “temperature.” Thus, it is important that I teach my girls to set the correct “reference point” for all the other stones to go. Whether it be in their future home or right now in their youth group.
The Bible doesn’t just say that they should be cornerstones, but polished cornerstones ready to set in a palace. We should be polishing them and teaching them to be good representatives not only of their home but also of God.
I never pass up an opportunity to give my kids instructions or words of wisdom. They tease me about it sometimes. My favorite part of the day is picking my children up from school and listening to them chatter endlessly about their day. I listen and sometimes there are times when I find an opportunity to teach them something.
As parents never pass an opportunity to train your children.
I am not speaking of correction, but rather small training moments. Sometimes it is about music or dealing with friends; handling authority or using proper speech. I want them to be raised to be polished examples of our Lord Jesus Christ.
A plant that is has grown for many years and a cornerstone are both strong items. As parents, we need to make sure that we are teaching our children to stay strong in the face of adversity. We should teach them to stand for right. The day is coming when, I believe, this next generation will have to stand like never before. We need to teach them to be strong in their beliefs and standards. Teach them to not wither away when times get hard.
I pray every day that my personal Saviour will become my children’s personal Saviour. I am not speaking of salvation, as I can happily say that each one of my children are saved. I am speaking about that time in your life when God is not just the God of your parents because that’s how you were raised, but that moment when God becomes real to you. Sometimes it’s that moment in your personal devotion when God reveals Himself to you in a special way. Sometimes it’s’ through a trial when you feel the arms of your Saviour wrap around you in comfort. I want each one of my children to experience those moments.
My husband and I strive every day to train our children, not only in word, but through example. I hope that my children see Christ in us. I hope that through our example and training, with God’s help, they will become strong plants and polished cornerstones.
I pray that they will become pillars in their church and their community.
I encourage you as you head out to get your school supplies and prepare for yet another school year, use this time as a reflection of your home. I encourage you to take notice of how you are training your children for their future. We, as parents, should be taking this verse to heart and raising polished, strong young people. They Bible says to “Train up a child in the way they should go…” Are we training them to leave our home and be Godly leaders and examples? Are they ready to head off to school and represent our homes?
Mother of three & continues to serve in full-time ministry, alongside her husband, for almost 20 years.